to live in this world you must be able to do three things to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and, when the time comes to let it go, to let it go -Mary Oliver To lose someone you deeply love is not unlike the shattering experience of being in a terrible car accident. This sudden loss can come in the form of a true love, a broken friendship or an estranged family member. Each one of us will be visited by this loss at some point through the natural process of death.